Sunday, November 3, 2013

That awkward moment

When you're invited to a party and your friend tells you he's invited a single friend of his  and thinks I would like her because she loves baking, Franz Kafka, Alexander McQueen , and Wisconsin ( all the things and people I appreciate) and she shows up--

with her fiancĂ©e.  A woman as gorgeous and as sweet she was. I was disappointed for me but happy for them. We talked for hours, and laughed, and even exchanged contact information.

In the past month I met 5 beautiful women. None of which I could date because I'm not a woman.

Saturday, September 28, 2013

The Single Life

So an hour ago, my landlord and her husband stopped by the house that I'm renting with two other people.  Usually she calls before coming over since they live 2 hours away and they don't have keys to the house. I had taken off some latex gloves to answer the door. Anyway, they stopped by to clean or replace the air vents for the heater and dryer. While her husband  did what they came to do, my landlord was looking through the mail that always comes to the house for her. Then she asked me:

"So, Alieux, how's your love life? Are you dating anyone?"

I told her:

"I'm home on a Saturday night, cleaning the oven. That's how my love life is."

I know it sounds pathetic.  It is pathetic.

2 hours wasted

that awkward feeling u get when u realize the woman ure speaking w/ finds lighter skin more attractive. #internalizedracialoppression

I met her 2 hours earlier at this party, and we established eye contact. She was the only black woman there. A gorgeous real dark-skinned black woman  in her 40s with a beautiful smile and a good sense of humour, and the right sized-curves in all the right places . And we talked for an hour before talking to other people, but we found ourselves talking to each other again, 20 minutes later, for about 40 more minutes when I suggested we exchange contact information.

 And I thought we clicked when she said what she said that I'm too upset to repeat here.

Sunday, July 28, 2013

You have no idea

    How much I hate Oregon. I have never been this long in between girlfriends. Or even between local friends.     That is all

Saturday, July 27, 2013

According to most dating sites

What I am looking for doesn't exist. So odds are she isn't on here either. I know exactly what it is that I am looking for, she isn't on drugs ,she isn't just looking for sex, she wants children, she has depth, is a Christian ( she doesn't have to attend church every week) is caring, she's more concerned with what she has to contribute to a relationship then what she will get from being with me, she doesn't want to be with me because of all the money I have...or don't fact she doesn't care about what I do or do not have materialistically at all, she's a lady, between the ages of 30 & 45, she's honest and why yes, she is attractive and for this, they say "no results found."
I guess then what I'm looking for is very special, very rare and she attaches her picture to her e-mail
It's nice to dream. 

(this is my current craigslist posting)

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Note to Self

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all... seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind, replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!